Importance

What do you think is the most important thing.... to a woman?

I'm in one of those "thinking" moods again. Been a while since I last sat down with my thoughts without distraction. I was too lost in external activities, work, people, and everything else that was "important". I was tackling problems, juggling schedules, counselling people and running errands. It was, for lack of a better word, madness. Numb routine clockwork madness.

Here I am, cross-legged on my work chair with my fingers furious on the keyboard and High Society playing in the background. Feeling tired from the whole day of out-and-about for annual report photo shoots and meetings with brand consultants. Thought about the surprise birthday celebration we gave boss and her rushing off to meet her husband and kids for dinner. The women around me, mostly married or attached. All high flyers. And I think, what makes them happy? Is it being successful in their career? Or married to the right guy? Or having lovely children? Or simply, being a good employee or a mentor to your subordinates?

I guess the action of idle screening through my head, some of the things that happened in the past couple of months got me started in this "mood" too. The happy times, the not-so-happy times. And the emo times. I hate it when I get emo. It is not a pretty sight.

For me, the single most important thing for a woman, is that I have support from people who love me enough to choose to be there. I place a lot of emphasis on whether a person is there for me in times of need. It's honestly the end when the person is absent, be it a friend, relative or someone I'm romantically involved with. The people who genuinely love me, are those who protect my honor. Who protect me from the slings and arrows of life (be it directly being there or catching me when I fall). Who provide me with support emotionally, physically and spiritually. And who put in the effort and not take me for granted. Who don't simply leave me in the lurch or give lesser support/help just because I am a strong person.

They love me, hence they chose to see through life with me. Journey with me together. They may not be with me every step of the way. But when I need them, they are there. Regardless of situation, circumstances and distance. I know in my gut I can always count on them. For life. The same people would also be sensitive to my feelings and take care not to hurt me. It's not on purpose; it's just done naturally out of love.

So if you find yourself in that category of people who have decided to place importance elsewhere, take it from me that I wouldn't waste another second nor breath on you anymore. Because life is too short to waste on people who don't cherish yours. And that is what's important to me. :)